After growing up in a society in which we are constantly bombarded with images, social media and stereotypes of an ‘ideal’ woman, a staggering 51% of women have low self-esteem and confidence. Confidence is the ability to trust in oneself and one’s aptitude to engage with the world. Self-esteem is the emotional appraisal of our own worth. Your confidence level affects personal relationships, business success, anxiety, depression, personal growth and how we allow ourselves to be treated. The statistics do not lie, ladies: we could all use a confidence booster and luckily, we are here to help. 

Visualization to Enhance a Confident Mindset

Visualization is mental imagery that creates or re-creates experiences, allowing all senses to be activated. According to research, visualization achieves the same results as performing the action by causing an impulse in the brain that directs a new neural pathway, priming ourselves to act consistently with our imagination. We strongly recommend using the following guidance, along with Mindshine’s Circle of Confidence exercise, to assist in your badass journey: 

In a quiet, private space, start by envisioning a circle big enough to step into. Step inside the circle and think of times in your life that you felt your best,  when things went smoothly, times you were charming and at your brightest; or bring to mind someone who embodies the type of confidence you’d like to achieve. What do you see? How do you feel inside? Now, take an outside view of yourself. What do you look like? How is your posture? What are  people saying of you? Breathe these images and feelings in, deep into your being for 30 seconds or longer. Open your eyes and walk into the rest of your day holding onto that feeling of confidence. You can always resort back to this exercise anytime you need a confidence boost.

Another guided visualization exercise in the Mindshine app, Winner’s Walk, encourages relaxation and enhances confidence by referencing your past achievements. You will be reminded of the emotions you felt achieving previous accomplishments and therefore increase your self-esteem and confidence. 

Conquer Negative Self-Talk

Self-praise is imperative to boosting overall self-worth and being, whilst dragging yourself down or dwelling endlessly in misery won’t improve your situation, and especially, your confidence. Accepting your situation and being compassionate with yourself will keep you moving in a healthier direction; cultivating resilience. An important first step to conquering negative self-talk is understanding that life is 90% how you react to circumstances. Create a phrase of kindness that will resonate with you during difficult times and help ease the negativity. Additionally, we tend to negate and ignore praise from others leading to a cultural bias of negative self-talk. Self-praise is more effective than praise from others and allowing praise boosts our confidence. Make a conscious effort to stop negative self-talk by saying as many self-praises as possible in 90 seconds and writing down a self-praise that is easily accessible and in view. Your self-praise can be limitless through acknowledgment and celebration of your achievements (large or small) and understanding of your unique strengths and characteristics. For further guidance, we suggest utilizing the exercises Self-Compassion Tripled and Self-Praise Race in the Mindshine app. 

More Ways to Boost Confidence and Shine

  • Dress your best: According to the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, your style and the clothes you choose affect and reflect your mood, health and overall confidence. The symbolic meaning of the clothes and the physical experience of wearing them create a phenomenon called enclothed cognition. Raid your closet for clothes that make you feel empowered, or use this as an excuse to shop (you’re welcome). 

 

  • Move your body: Whether lifting weights, a light jog or fitness classes are your thing, an active lifestyle will improve your physical and mental health; and in turn, your confidence levels. Working out releases endorphins, which naturally enhance your overall mood and reduces anxiety and depression. You will feel better from the inside out.

 

  • Tackle your fears: Acting on and successfully overcoming obstacles that frighten you is an automatic confidence booster. Facing fears will help you understand your strengths, relieve stress of the unknown and provide hard evidence that you can conquer anything by believing in yourself. 

 

  • Persistence and practice: Lastly, nothing worth having is easy and this can be said about changing your mindset. Practice the techniques which work best for you and incorporate them into your daily routine. You will become that confident, kick butt woman in no time. 

Although society’s odds are against us, we empower you to commit to a confident lifestyle, because YOU are the only one in control of your feelings of self-worth. We cannot wait to see you strut down the street, get that promotion, and be at peace within. Remind yourself often that you are capable and deserving of being your best self and believing it too.