Confidence is a mindset

Practicing “I am enough” by Building Self-Love and Confidence

How Mantras Like “I am enough” Influence Self-Love and Confidence

Continuing our conversation on unrelenting standards, I wanted to discuss the importance of incorporating mantras into your daily life. These mantras, like “I am enough”, help to speak to your subconscious unrelenting standards and remind you of the progress that you have made thus far—ultimately establishing self-love and confidence in who you are. When we think about self-love, we may think about self-care actions. These may include taking time for ourselves, such as taking a long bath or going for a walk. Self-love can also be more complex. For example, confronting aspects of your mindset that are not healthy—like unrelenting standards. Self-love can be recognizing that you may engage in negative self-talk and negative thinking patterns that are not benefiting you in any tangible way—and then doing something about it. Your self-worth is not determined by how much you have accomplished or what standards you are setting for yourself. When we practice self-love by acknowledging areas we need to work on, all the while accepting ourselves for who we have become, we can build our confidence and progress towards our goals. 

More on Confidence…

When you think of confidence—what comes to mind? Is it a person who has accomplished their goals and stands tall and proud of who they are? Is it someone who accepts themselves and loves themselves unconditionally? For me, confidence looks more like the latter. When I notice someone who has made a mistake, for example, I look for how they respond. Confidence to me is taking accountability for where they went wrong, actively apologizing, and committing to move forward in a way that ensures they are continuing that accountability to correcting their mistake. Looking at the mantra highlighted so far— “I am enough”—we are accepting ourselves for who we are, despite our flaws. We are building our self-esteem through consistent acceptance and commitment to ourselves. This is not to say that you have to accept your flaws in way that keeps you stuck where you are. This mantra is simply saying that right now, you are enough, and you are committed to yourself in all areas—even those areas in which you are actively working to improve. Self-love does not come at a price—it is priceless. You have all of the resources to implement self-love in your mind. Here are some mantras to start implementing in your every day that will boost your confidence and improve your overall mindset, self-esteem, and self-worth. 

5 Mantras to Help Boost your Confidence

  • “I am enough”
  • “I am worthy of good things happening to me”
  • “I am not my mistakes, but rather, I stay accountable to them”
  • “I am not my past, or my future, I am just me right now”
  • “I am deserving of my own love and acceptance”

To Sum Up

When we think of increasing our confidence and shifting our thoughts to a more positive mindset, we can begin by incorporating mantras into our everyday routines. One tip that increases the likelihood that you will incorporate the mantra into your day, is to write the mantra some place you will look at when you first wake up. Waking up and starting your day with the mantras listed can increase your mindset, encourage you to practice self-love and acceptance, and will boost your confidence over time—as long as you stay accountable to yourself by practicing it. To help with the accountability, incorporate Mindshine into your morning routine as well. Emotional intelligence is a training plan that encourages people to notice their unrelenting standards and their reactions to those standards. Incorporating the emotional intelligence training plan can also boost your overall mindset and increase your self-esteem by teaching you new ways to be mindful and understanding of your emotions. Additionally, incorporating mindfulness and meditation practices can help to bring the unrelenting standards you set for yourself to light, and give you tools to directly challenge them, such as using the mantras as a response to negative thought patterns. 

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Where Unrelenting Standards Begin and Mindset is Impacted

We have all experienced the sensation of feeling as if no matter how hard we work, no matter how much effort we integrate into all we do—there remains a feeling of needing to do more or work harder. Like it doesn’t ever feel quite enough. How does this impact your mindset? For example, when we log on to our social medias, or walk into our workplace, we are faced with the successes of others and the opportunities others are receiving. It may seem as if nothing we ever do, is enough to reach the standards that we set for ourselves and standards we believe we must reach. Additionally, thoughts that surround unrelenting standards or perfectionism lead to a negative mindset that can actually impact your ability to connect with others, motivation, and potential. While unrelenting standards may rear their ugly heads subconsciously, you are in control of how you react and choose to respond to them. Here are two simple tips to help challenge your high standards you place upon yourself, while shifting those thoughts to a more effective mindset and improve your peace and overall well-being:


  • Incorporate daily small acts of self-love


What is self-love? Dr. Andrea Brandt describes self-love as an act of “not settling for less than you deserve”. When you begin the cycle of placing unrelenting standards onto yourself—how does that make you feel? Do you feel pressure, stress, discouraged, unmotivated, unworthy? This cycle of negative mindset can be toxic and harmful to your potential and progress. Even more importantly, unrelenting standards can impact our relationships and how we connect with others—which actually showcases a lack of self-love. Instead, when you begin to notice your reactions to a colleague’s successes (i.e. a promotion) and you start to feel frustrated, as if you are not doing enough – your inner critic is ignited towards that person and/or yourself. How can one have meaningful and authentic interactions when our inner critic towards ourselves or others get in our way?  Try countering that thought with a positive act of self-love. Give yourself space to notice how you are feeling, and then take a moment to look at your successes. What have you accomplished that you are proud of? Right now, take inventory of everything you are proud of. What have you accomplished that makes you feel motivated, excited and powerful? When you begin to notice the cycle of unrelenting standards beginning, combat those thoughts with reminding yourself of your accomplishments and take note of how your wellbeing is impacted. Notice how your mindset will shift. 


  • Implementing gratitude each day


Here is a challenge—keep a journal, a notebook or a piece of paper with you throughout the day and write down an aspect of your day that you are grateful for experiencing. Acts of gratitude can look different depending on your day. Some days we spend more time relaxing and reenergizing—that is an enormous act of self-love that certainly qualifies as an act that encompasses gratitude. Did you know that a 2014 study found that regularly writing down a list of things you are grateful for can increase your optimism by 15%? Think about how great that number is. If you start to write down even three things you are grateful for each day—small or large—you can actually change the way you feel and look at the world. How powerful is that! Think about how quickly your standards you set for yourself will change. No longer will these standards focus on the need to prove your worth or how successful you are. You may even begin to notice that the unrelenting standards you used to be encompassed by, are not as important or dire as you once thought.

To Sum Up This Mindset:

Now that we have talked about two ways you can combat those unrelenting standards and replace them with acts that improve your mindset and well-being, let’s talk about how you can  continue your journey of self-love and gratitude through Mindshine. Take the guesswork out of your practice to combat your thoughts by training with the right exercises within the Mindshine App. For unrelenting standards, you may want to work on improving your confidence with “Athlete’s Confidence” training plan or deepen your self compassion in the “Love Yourself” training plan or expand your gratitude practice with “Attitude of Gratitude”.  Choose yourself, choose to practice self-love and implement daily activities that will aid in your progress towards improving your mindset, relationship with yourself and others, and your overall well-being. 

Consciousness Writing: Pandemic Kindness

During times of immense stress and uncertainty, how are you treating yourself? Are you full of kindness or is your mindset focused on negativity towards yourself?

Recently, I have noticed that the way that I speak to myself when I become stressed or worried has been very unhelpful. I get frustrated with myself when I feel as if I cannot complete a project, or when I feel as if I cannot focus. I tell myself how irresponsible or unproductive I am.

When I woke up one morning recently, my first thoughts were about how many different tasks I needed to complete for the day. I did not even take the time to stretch, to just lay awake for a moment or take note of how grateful I am for simply waking up safe in my home, while so many others do not have that luxury. Again, my negative self-talk was beginning to start it’s ugly routine for the day. But that morning, I felt done with that typical routine and pattern. Instead, I decided to speak out to those thoughts and say,  “Enough!”. I chose to lie in bed for a few moments, and begun my mindfulness practice in the morning rather than the evening. I had skipped practicing mindfulness the last couple of weeks, as I felt I could not get myself to sit down with my thoughts, as I was so stressed. However, encouraging myself to simply lie down, relax, and practice mindfulness, was extremely helpful to shifting my mindset that day. After practicing gratitude and kindness, I immediately felt less stressed and uncertain about the day. When we feel stressed or frustrated, we can lose sight of what we have that helps us throughout the day. Often times, I notice that when I am so frustrated with wanting to be somewhere further along than I already am, I forget about just how far I have come. Take this as a challenge to look inward, when you notice yourself engaging in negative self-talk, take a look at where those words are coming from. One of my favorite perspective taking activities is reflecting upon where I am now, versus where I wished I was when I was younger. Right now, as a graduate student of clinical psychology, studying Marriage and Family therapy, I am exactly where I wished to be eight years ago. My freshman year of high school, I only dreamed of being in this position. Yet, here I am today. I got here despite the negative self-talk along the way, I made it. Think about where you are now, how long have you wished to be just where you are? Would the “you” right now, engage in the same negative self-talk with your younger self? I highly doubt it.

Right now, we are in the midst of a pandemic. Treat and talk to your “pandemic self” as you would to a younger version of yourself. Give yourself kindness during this time. Focus on what you actually need to do. Can that project wait another 5 minutes, just so you can focus on gratitude practice or mindfulness? Give it a try, and see how different you will feel. Never neglect your needs for that of completing projects. You deserve more than that.

How to Genuinely Respond to the Question: How Are You?

With all that is going on in the world, how are you doing? Many people respond to this question with a generic, “I’m doing great!” or “I’m doing well”. How are you really doing? What are you really feeling, what are your worries or stresses? Often, in times of stress and uncertainty, we can tend to ignore or overlook how we are feeling inside, in order to keep moving forward and stay productive. A 2017 study conducted by the American Institute of Stress, found that the top causes of stress in the United States are job pressure, money and health. Interestingly to note, what three aspects of our every day life are currently at the forefront of our minds? Each day, we wake up to more headlines that are impacting these three specific stressors. Yet, when people ask us how we are doing, how do you most often respond? Here are three tips on incorporating a more genuine and honest response to the question, “how are you?” that are authentic to yourself:

1. Incorporate something you have learned about yourself during this time

What have you learned about yourself now that our lives have all shifted? What are you beginning to notice about how you adapt to change? Incorporating a response that encompasses aspects of yourself that you have begun to notice can be helpful in creating connections to others. Have you felt innovative during this time? Have you filled your time with various hobbies or work requirements? Have you needed to slow down and take each day one by one? Noticing aspects about yourself during this time can also help with effective coping strategies.

2. Discuss something you have achieved while in quarantine

Achievements and accomplishments are not always huge. Sometimes, making your bed each morning can be a significant accomplishment given the current times. Try incorporating some of your achievements into your response. “I am doing okay, one way I know this, is if I can make my bed each morning”. Your accomplishments can be silly, they can be small, or they can be big. There are not many limitations on what constitutes an accomplishment. I challenge you think about the small or big things you have accomplished during this time—have you cooked a homemade meal? Have you tried a new recipe? Have you gone for walks outside? Have you tried a new hobby? These are all accomplishments that can be incorporated for a more genuine response to “how are you?”

3. Don’t be afraid of asking for help

There is certainly nothing wrong with asking for help, especially during times of uncertainty. If a friend asks you how you are doing, try responding with asking how they are coping with the current state of the world—“You know, I am struggling with ____, do you have any advice?”. Everyone has their own unique coping skills that we can all learn from. Some may even be helpful in incorporating into your own life. This is also a great way to connect with others and deepen the conversation to becoming more authentic and realistic. 

To Sum Up:

Practice implementing more honest and authentic responses to the question, “How are you?” You can practice looking inward and reflecting on how you are really feeling by practicing mindfulness and meditation exercises. After doing mindfulness practice, combine your authentic feelings with the above three tips to encompass a more honest response. Check out more information about mindfulness practice below to learn about Mindshine.

5 Steps Towards Managing Pandemic Worry

You wake up and immediately are bombarded with headlines, new stories, and conversations surrounding the panic people are feeling in relation to the current Global Health Pandemic. What types of feelings are you experiencing? Intense worry, stress, or fear? How are you responding to these feelings? These are normal feelings that come about when we just do not have all of the answers that we would like to have. However, these feelings of worry and uncertainty also contribute to panic and a sense of losing control. The purpose of this article is to provide you with five ways in which you can minimize and manage the worry you may be experiencing, as well as helping those around you to feel supported and heard. These small steps you can take—right now—will put you in the driver’s seat of managing your worry:

1. Take deep, meaningful breaths

One small way to increase your resilience in the face of worry is to take control of the one aspect that means you are alive—breathing. As you are reading this, let’s do a breathing exercise. Note how you are feeling before doing the breathing exercise—anxious or worried? Let’s begin: deep breath in through your nose for four seconds, hold breath for seven seconds letting the air fill your belly, and release the air through your mouth for eight seconds. How do you feel now? 

2. Limit your news and media intake

Just what the tip says—limit your excessive and consistent news intake. Stay informed about what is going on in the world, but set boundaries on what media you are ingesting. One way to do this is to set an intention to read or listen to recaps of important updates from reputable agencies such as the Center for Disease Control (CDC) or the World Health Organization (WHO). P.S. keep on the lookout for positive news stories you are seeing—did you know that scientists have figured out how the virus impacts human cells? This is a major progress towards treating the virus (Live Science). 

3. Acknowledge your feeling, then find a productive activity to focus on

When we are feeling stress and anxiety, it can seem impossible to do anything else in that moment but feel those feelings. Take this as a challenge—after completing a breathing exercise, find one activity you love to do to focus on for the next 10 minutes. Do you like to run? Go for a run—did you know that incorporating a little exercise each day can help increase your white blood cell count (the cells that help fight off bad bacteria and viruses)? Find activities that you enjoy and can encourage you to divert your attention, which helps to minimize and manage worry. 

4. Practice Self-Compassion

One great way to combat anxiety is compassion for self. When we are experiencing intense worry or stress, it can be hard to focus on and be kind to ourselves. Try combating the negative thoughts you may be telling yourself in your head, by introducing at least one positive thought into your mindset. Try telling yourself a mantra of sorts—this could be anything that makes you feel good. Here is one mantra centered on facing anxiety created by James Philip to try: “Things are not being done to me, they are just happening”. Try repeating this mantra when you begin to experience the pangs of worry and recognize how you are feeling before and after repeating the mantra. Repeat as often as needed.

5. Gratitude Practice

Did you know that gratitude improves our limbic system—which is responsible for regulating essential human behaviors—and can improve sleeping patterns, which indirectly influences the reduction of stress and anxiety? Take this as a challenge to write down three things that you are grateful for—they could be small or big. Sometimes writing down that you woke up and got out of bed is enough to be grateful for. Recognize what you are grateful for, what you have, and what is around you, and notice how acknowledging these aspects of your life can improve your overall mood and wellbeing. 

To Sum Up:

It is more than okay to feel nervous or worried about the current state of the world. But what are these feelings serving you other than stress and more worry? Let’s incorporate healthy coping responses to these feelings through five small ways that help to manage and minimize your worry. For example, the MindShine App takes the guesswork out of your progress and helps you in applying these tips into overall practice—from managing your stress, to a deeper practice of gratitude, or guidance on applying positive psychology techniques, and so much more. Waking up and powering through your day is already an act of courage and bravery. Your wellness and overall health is impacted by your actions—try incorporating some that focus on things that bring you joy. You deserve it!

The Good Luck Jitters

Have you ever been up for a promotion, given a new opportunity you were looking forward to, or simply encountered sudden good luck and felt a sense of dread? When good things happen to us, we are told to be thankful, appreciative and excited. However, have you ever felt nervous or hesitant when you suddenly accomplish all that you had wished to do? Maybe there was a voice in your head that reminded you that these good fortunes will not last, or maybe you cannot enjoy these good things happening because you worry it may be taken away. While self-doubt is a common occurrence, it is not always discussed openly. Agapi Stassinopoulos, author and inspirational speaker, discusses this phenomenon and how you can feel good when receiving goodness. Modeled after Agapi Stassinopoulos’s framework, here are two simple ways to diminish negative-self talk when good things happen to you:

1. Start to recognize the small successes throughout your day and let yourself bask in the goodness they bring you.

Make an effort to notice everyday experiences that you go through and what small positive influences that they have on your day. Did you wake up early to enjoy cup of coffee? Were your kids out of the door on time and ready to go? Did you make it to work early enough to have a moment to decompress before heading in? These are all small positive influences that can shift the course of your day that we often overlook.

2. Talk back to that voice in your head, by creating a healthier mindset.

Okay, this one may sound a little silly. But in fact, recognizing when you are experiencing negative self-talk and understanding the fault in this way of thinking, can help to quiet that voice in your head. Try responding to that voice with, “I am experiencing something positive, let’s see where this goes”. See how this makes you feel in response to that self-doubt. Recognize that shifting your mindset by shutting down and confronting that negative self-talk directly can create a healthier mindset.

To Sum Up:

Feeling hesitant or nervous when receiving good things happening to us is a common occurrence. However, this self-doubt does not feel good and does not add to your strengths. Allowing yourself to recognize your small successes throughout the day and rejoicing in them, can help to build resistance to the voice in your head telling you that these successes will not last. Additionally, confronting that voice and shifting your thinking to encompass a more positive outlook, can aid in your feelings of hope and excitement when receiving goodness.

The Power of Being Grateful

Think about the last time you felt like nothing was going right. How did that feel? Did you feel stuck? Were you overwhelmed with stress and exhaustion? These are common feelings when it seems as if nothing can go right.

The practice of gratitude

However, there is one solution you can incorporate that can change your entire perspective on any given situation—in one small practice. This is the practice of gratitude and being grateful. Dr. Robert A. Emmons and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami have focused greatly on the power of gratitude. In one study that they conducted, they asked one set of participants to list various aspects of their lives that they are grateful for, another set was asked to write about aspects that were irritating to them, and finally, the third set was asked to write about aspects in their life that could be both positive or negative.

You encourage growth in a more positive mindset

At the end of the study, it was found that the set that wrote about things they were grateful for were found to feel much more positively overall about their life, than those in the other sets comparatively. While this may seem like a subjective experience, research has proven that practicing gratitude does, in fact, encourage growth in a more positive mindset. While it can be easy to say that one should practice being grateful, being in a mindset in which you feel stressed, overwhelmed, or tired can make it challenging to think about what you are grateful for.

What are you grateful for?

However, I am challenging you to choose at least one aspect of your life each day that you are grateful for. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  1. Were you able to wake up in the morning and get out of bed?
  2. Was there any part of the day where you could feel fresh air?
  3. Did you have any meals that were tasty?
  4. Did you speak to anyone that offered you warmth and kindness?

The gratitude list

On my gratitude list that I add to at the end of each day, I sometimes write about the smallest aspect of my day that I am thankful for having experienced. For example, I added that I was grateful for my slippers. Another day I wrote that I was grateful for highlighters, because they come in handy when I am studying. Being grateful does not always need to include elaborate aspects of your life, but rather, focusing on the simplest aspects of your life can sometimes make all the difference.

To sum up

Focus on creating a gratitude list of things that you are grateful for. These lists can include the simplest aspects of your life—like a pen, or a pair of slippers—to incorporate a positive shift in your perspective. Focus on how you feel when you finish writing your gratitude list at the end of each day. Sometimes your list will be small, but it is writing it down—actualizing it—that makes the difference. 

3 Ways You Can Make Time for You Throughout Your Workweek

Have you ever heard the phrase “If you want to, you will make time”? This is such a daunting phrase to hear. Often times, we are working and coordinating on so many different projects throughout our life, that we simply do not have the time to make time for ourselves. This often results in exhaustion and fatigue that causes decreased effort and productivity in the workplace—only furthering the cycle! The National Safety Council found that in 2018, alone, that two-thirds of the workforce in the United States deal with workplace fatigue—approximately 107 million people out of the 160 million workers in total (National Safety Council, 2018). This is a staggering number. While a solution to workplace fatigue is not entirely simple, taking time for yourself can be a major influence in reducing stress and fatigue, and can also shift your perspective on your goals and aspirations in life. Here are five small, but manageable and realistic ways you can make time for yourself throughout your workweek:

Incorporate a routine that you stick through to start your workweek

This can be as simple as ensuring that you have thirty minutes to drink a cup of coffee while sitting in your favorite chair at home. Instilling a routine that you find to be pleasant—and attainable—is an important first step towards making time for yourself. Choose a routine that would not cause you additional stress while actually doing it. Choose something attainable and realistic—like drinking a cup of coffee to start your day—and ensure that you make this a priority each morning. Practice makes perfect, so explore various routines that make you feel good!

Actively listen to your body 

Have you ever been so busy and focused on the things you have to accomplish that day that you realize you did not eat? While you may at first be surprised that you did not notice, you soon will feel the effects of not listening to what your body needs. We are often so stimulated and focused on so many different things at once that you do not even notice your stomach rumbling. Set time throughout the day where you listen to your body and actively choose to give your body what it needs. 

When you can take a break—take a diligent break

What does taking a diligent break mean? It means taking a break where you are not focused on the next set of tasks you have to complete or what you are going to make for dinner—but actually focusing on the break from the constant stimulation you are receiving throughout your day. One way to take a diligent break is through incorporating a mindfulness practice, such as deep breathing exercises for two minutes or utilizing apps such as Mindshine to guide you through coached mindfulness activities. 

Taking the time to actually focus in on yourself is one step towards improving workplace fatigue and reestablishing loving and nurturing you. Because our world places immense stress on constantly doing to be seen as successful, make your success incorporate self-care methods. Prioritize yourself and your needs, and see just how much farther this will take you. 

Let’s recap:

Taking the time to actually focus in on yourself is one step towards improving workplace fatigue and reestablishing loving and nurturing you. Because our world places immense stress on constantly doing to be seen as successful, make your success incorporate self-care methods. Prioritize yourself and your needs, and see just how much farther this will take you. Try implementing at least one mindfulness activity during a break from your workday by utilizing the Mindshine app. By doing so, you will be incorporating realistic and attainable mental breaks from your busy schedule.

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Depend on YOU - 5 Easy Ways to Practice Self-Reliance

As the New Year is upon us, many people are creating plans of action for how to approach their goals that they wish to accomplish within the next twelve months. One way to accomplish your goals while building confidence and consistency is through self-reliance. Ralph Waldo Emerson famously spoke about the importance of self-reliance and how vital it is for the success of individuals and what they wish to accomplish. Self-reliance is the act of trusting yourself by setting goals and intentions, and depending on you to see them through. 

Many of life’s greatest philosophers have spoken often about the importance of self-reliance or believing in yourself and our choices to get through life’s obstacles. Socrates famously said, “To find yourself, think for yourself”. While these words are simple, they hold a profound message. When we are facing the challenges of life, we can often rely on the words of others to help get us through. Learning from others is a wonderful way to gain knowledge, however, it is essential to practice trust and faith within you. You are the most knowledgeable person regarding the facts of your life. 

Although the concept of self-reliance, believing and depending on yourself to lead you towards success and happiness has been around for centuries, many of us are still unable to practice it. Here are five ways to practice self-reliance, thereby building self-confidence and dependence:

1. Think for yourself

Catherine Moore, Psychologist, MBA, writes of the importance of believing in you, by first thinking for yourself. Many of us often spend hours of our day filled with listening to what others think of our lives or suggestions on what decisions we should make, but what if the key to resolving life’s obstacles or making decisions, is to simply place trust within ourselves? As mentioned previously, learning from others and listening to others help us gain valuable knowledge—however, only doing what others are doing without thinking for yourself can lead to results that you may not be happy with. Instead, try thinking for yourself. 

2. Be who you are

Be who you are in all of your quirks and intricacies. Being what others imagine you to be will not lead to your own happiness. Be your authentic self, by understanding your intricacies. Being who you are means constantly assessing and creating self-awareness.  

3. Be accountable to yourself

YOU hold the greatest knowledge of who you are. Give yourself the time you deserve to understand what makes you who you are, by practicing accountability. Take the time to understand what your boundaries are within relationships, give yourself the time to think about what goals you would like to accomplish.  

4. Set accomplishable goals for yourself to complete each day

One way to nurture self-reliance is to set attainable goals to complete for yourself each day. Do you love having a warm cup of coffee before work? Set a goal and intention to wake up early enough to enjoy an entire cup of coffee before you leave for the day. Goals do not have to be enormous each day—they can be as simple as making a cup of coffee, if that is what makes you feel confident to start your day. Accomplishing this goal can help to create self-reliance that you know how to take care of your needs and set yourself up for success. 

5. Maintain your self-dependence 

It is quite all right to go do an activity you have always wanted to do, without a large group accompanying you. Many people may say no to activities or adventures that they have always wanted to do because others do not find them interesting. Simply believe in your capacity and ability to know what you do and do not like and nourish your interests. Take yourself out for a cup of coffee, or go for a morning hike. Trust that you know YOU. Give yourself the love and respect you deserve by believing in yourself.

These are just some ways to practice self-reliance. As you read this, you may start to think of other ways in which you can utilize self-reliance and belief in yourself within your own life. Ultimately, engage in acts that help to build independence and strength within you. Place trust within yourself and your capabilities. Understand that self-reliance is not something that comes right away—you must work towards it by giving yourself the space and time to do so. 

Let’s recap:

These are just some ways to practice self-reliance. As you read this, you may start to think of other ways in which you can utilize self-reliance and belief in yourself within your own life. Ultimately, engage in acts that help to build independence and strength within you. Place trust within yourself and your capabilities. Understand that self-reliance is not something that comes right away—you must work towards it by giving yourself the space and time to do so. If you need a more structured approach to accomplishing self-reliance—give Mindshine a try.

5 Quotes to Get Through the New-Year Blues

The beginning of a new year has arrived, and with it, comes uncertainty and vast potential for change. Stress levels in the United States have risen within the past five years. Approximately 75% of adults in the United States have reported that their stress levels have risen within the last year  (American Psychological Association). These levels of stress have also impacted individual’s mental health, as the World Health Organization reports that “depression is among the leading cause of disability” and “fewer than 25% of those with depression world-wide have access to effective treatments” (World Health Organization, 2019). Viewing your responsibilities as being small stepping-stones towards accomplishing your goals is one way to reduce the ways in which stress impacts your mental fitness. Just by taking the first step and breaking apart large and complex goals into doable actions, help to get you started on the right path towards self-reliance and confidence.

Here are five quotes to help you feel motivated for the New Year and to start with one small stepping stone toward your goals. 


“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach” – Tony Robbins

For this New Year, toss out resolutions and start creating action plans. Resolutions can often rely on the thought that you “might” get to create change. Creating an action plan with small steps can help to visualize and actualize these goals. Choose an action you would like to see yourself complete and hold yourself to that. However, keep in mind that life creates obstacles that may get in your way of completing your goals, therefore, ensure that you have back-up plans and ways to help jump the hurdles that come your way. In other words, believe in yourself and your capabilities to come up with resolving any obstacle that comes your way!


“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves” – William Shakespeare

It is essential that we encourage and incite belief within ourselves. Too often, I hear phrases such as “I can not do this” or “This is too hard, I’m going to avoid this”, even if what you are attempting to avoid or view as too challenging can directly impact your goals. This New Year, make an effort to establish trust within yourself. You are the director, producer and screenwriter of your life. Choose to be in charge and believe that you have the tools necessary to succeed, as so long as you give yourself the room to grow and learn. 


“What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year” – Vern McLellan

One thing my mother always told me growing up was to always do for others as you would like to be done for you. While this is true, ensure that you are treating yourself with the same respect and care as you treat others. Understand that just by giving yourself love, acceptance, and patience, you can create immense change. Trust your instincts and create change within yourself by practicing self-reliance. Know that gifts do not always end up on your doorstep by chance. It is not simply enough to acknowledge you would like change to occur this New Year. Give yourself trust this New Year and see how this simple step can ensure self-reliance and improve confidence. 


“The beginning is the most important part of the work” – Plato

An important way to approach this New Year is just by simply doing. Waking up in the morning and getting out of bed can be enough for a successful day. It is all dependent upon how you view success. Sometimes, one can feel that even getting out of bed is asking far too much. However, giving yourself the trust, love and patience you deserve to make those first steps is the key to success. Today you may get out of bed, feel great and accomplish your goals you set. Tomorrow, you may feel as if getting out of bed is your only goal. That is okay—give yourself trust to know your boundaries and love yourself regardless. 


“You don’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step” – Martin Luther King Jr. 

Taking baby steps is sometimes all it takes to succeed. Break apart your goals into smaller goals, set boundaries, allow yourself to be patient—instilling these practices within your life can be all it takes to find success. Attune your goals to consider your feelings, thoughts and abilities each day. Be flexible with yourself and with what you would like to accomplish. Take one step at a time, but just take the first step.


Let’s recap:

Ultimately, believe in your effort and your ability to just get started—oftentimes the most difficult step. Create realistic and attainable goals for yourself. Creating these goals and separating them into attainable steps can be accomplished through practice. Mindshine can help—select a goal that you wish to accomplish and allow Mindshine to create realistic steps to work towards each day that bring you one step closer to your desired goal.